Posted 8 months ago
via tj
Age is nearly irrelevant
21?! Didn’t you say you were getting married next year?! Where’d you meet?! Tell us all about it.
YES. I am 21 years old. And YES. We are getting married. In 6 months. GASP I AM SO YOUNG.
The Wife and I were both 22 when we got married. We’d known each other 4 years, during which we dated 2.5 years and been engaged for 13 months.
That was 14.5 years ago.
I’d do it again in a heartbeat.
Her too.
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I got married two months after I turned nineteen. Ryan was twenty. We knew each other for eight months before we tied the knot. Why did we get married so quickly? That’s a very, very long story involving a multitude of factors — none of which were pregnancy, like everyone at my wedding assumed.
We’ve been married for five and a half years — eight times longer than we dated. We’ve earned two degrees, transferred universities once, lived in four apartments, owned two cats and one dog. We’ve had to eat ramen noodles and work double shifts, and now we’re lucky enough that Ryan’s gainful employment covers all our expenses. I’ve changed majors, hair colors, dress sizes, and plans for the future. But I’ve never once doubted my choice to marry Ryan — I’ve never doubted Ryan. We both went into marriage with eyes wide open.
It doesn’t matter if you’re eighteen or eighty. If you’re not willing to accept that marriage is not only a romantic and fulfilling experience but also a helluva a lot of work as well, you shouldn’t get married. Age isn’t exactly irrelevant, but age and emotional maturity are definitely not a one-to-one correspondence.
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